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Do's & Don'ts for Bridesmaids

Being a bride-to-be can feel like walking a minefield where you’re never more than one step away from running afoul of wedding etiquette. This goes double when you’re dealing not with rituals and traditions but rather with people. Unlike centerpieces and wedding favors, people have feelings that must be taken into account at every turn. Want to make sure that you stay on the right side of courtesy where your bridesmaids are concerned? Then read on for a quick breakdown of how to choose your wedding attendants and how to keep your ‘maids happy.

Choosing Bridesmaids

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DON’T feel obligated to choose sisters (your own or those of your spouse-to-be), cousins, or former brides who included you in their wedding parties. Pick the people who you know will both support you and be honored to stand at your side as you say your vows.

DO invite your ‘maids early. Give your best gal pals plenty of time to do what they have to in order to participate fully in your engagement and wedding day. Having to rush makes being a bridesmaid less of an honor and more of a chore. Have a welcome gift like a statement bracelet ready.

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How Many Attendants Should I Have?

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DO have as many or as few attendants as you like. One bridesmaid or eleven – if you’d prefer to keep things intimate or space allows for a crowd, how many attendants you have is up to you, not determined by convention.

DON’T worry about pairing bridesmaids and groomsmen. It’s perfectly fine to have an uneven number of wedding attendants – if your significant other has five best friends and you have only four, don’t feel like you need to choose a token bridesmaid to fill the empty spot. Attendants can walk the aisle solo or three astride. This should be the least of your worries.

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Bridal Party Expenses

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DO help your ‘maids shoulder the expense of being in your wedding. Buying bridesmaid jewelry for your attendants is a simple but sweet gesture even your budget only allows for a simple jewelry set – if you can afford it, though, do consider covering the cost of the bridesmaids’ dresses, hair, and makeup, too.

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Asking Your Bridesmaids for Help

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DON’T expect your bridesmaids to put their lives aside to work on your wedding to-do list. While it’s reasonable to expect your attendants to participate in pre-wedding shindigs and any outings involving the bridesmaids’ outfits, don’t take it personally if your ‘maids are not quite as excited about your nuptials as you are.

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Thanking Your Bridesmaids

Thanking Your Bridesmaids

DO thank your bridesmaids at every possible opportunity. Chances are the women you choose to be at your side on one of the most important days of your life will go above and beyond to make it special. Courtesy demands that you show your appreciation. Don’t forget the bridesmaids’ gifts, of course, but never underestimate the value of a simple, gushing thank you.

In the same vein, remember that an apology can be just as powerful. Should you find you’ve become a bit of a bridezilla and it was your bridesmaids who bore the brunt of your wedding planning wrath, saying sorry is the best way to smooth things over.

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