Do you sometimes think...
- What am I getting myself into?
- Who is this person that I'm marrying?
- Why are we always fighting now? We never did before... what's wrong?
With the added stress of planning a wedding, most every bride (and groom) can experience these feelings of extreme anxiety.
Marriage is a leap of faith. No matter how well you know each other, life does change after you're married - most often for the better. However, many people have cold feet during wedding planning. This can be normal or a sign of a problem.
Suggestion - sit down in a quiet place - do some deep breathing - get in touch with your feelings and what your heart wants and needs.
- Since the engagement have you changed? Has your partner changed?
- Have you discovered something new about him/her that you didn't know before - drinking or drug problems?
- Is he/she not being considerate of your feelings?
- Have you noticed a very different attitude about the wedding budget that could carry over to the marriage?
These are very real issues that need to be dealt with and soon. Talk with your fiancé about your feelings. And, if you still have questions about your feelings, talk to a counselor.
Many couples will experience "wedding jitters" but it is usually a case of feeling overwhelmed with all the planning and everyone's opinions. Don't feel bad or guilty about these feelings - they are perfectly normal and usually pass in a day or two.
Go out for a romantic evening - and do not talk about the wedding plans.
Special thanks to Myrna Ruskin, Stress Management Counselor.
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